Hi Badluck666,
There's nothing like people living with each other in order to learn how each other really is. Things certainly escalated when I moved in. It leaves little space.
The push-pull dynamic is pretty typical for a pwBPD (
see here for more). We have material here to the right of the board which can help, because I don't sense that you want to run here, but rather look for tools and support to try and save the relationship, yes?
When she kicks you out, where do you go, and how long is it before she asks you to come back? Do you feel safe coming back, from violent behavior, say?
Turkish