Thank you so much for the response. I have really been working on more of a BICF approach (Brief, Informative, Civil, Firm) . I've always been pretty good at being civil, and not as good at the JADE part. In fact I have found that I've become more defensive in general after dealing with so many years of this.
It's very difficult right now, because I'm afraid that not explaining will lead the co-parenting councelor to believe untrue accusations. In the past, my wife was really good at helping me reword emails ina more direct clear way. As it stands the decade of dealing with my ex has really taken it's toll though and has stressed her out to the point of it severely affecting our relationship and leaving her feeling disconnected. It's left me feeling mostly alone in all of this and having to balance work, home, court and still be a patient, upbeat father and husband.
My therapist gets it, my lawyer I fear goes in and out of really having my back and understanding the nature of my Ex's BPD behaviors. She is good in general, but I feel locked in to her at this stage and keeping getting the feeling like she just doesn't want to deal with the constant issues that keep popping up.
I'm leaving work now and have more to say. I'll probably post some questions in the legal section as well as explain the current situation here later.
Thank you again for the response, it's good mental chiropractic to be reminded and it also helps to see others that understand some of what it is like without having to explain attachment disorders to give context.
I really need people that understand right now so I don't get locked up when I need to be sharp.
P.S. I'll spend some time looking at all the acronymnsI'm supposed to be using too
