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Extremely rough day, missing my ex, could use support
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I am missing my ex extra today. She is in a new relationship. It is hard to see her social media and the way they talk. We also go to the same university (her girlfriend does not) but I pass by her sometimes.
It feels like she doesn't miss me at all, and I am over here aching for her. My therapist and I have talked a lot about how this is probably not true, but it is hard to shale the feeling.
I just want her to miss me still. I want to stop seeing her tweet her new girlfriend the way she used to tweet at me. I want her to give a ___ about me again.
I am trying so very hard to focus on myself and only myself, and some days I am very successful, but there are other days like today when I can't help but miss her so ___ing much it consumes me.
I feel stupid and weak. I want to matter to her. It is so hard to see a person that really hurt be completely fine afterwards while you are left struggling, trying to fight through everyday.
She used to bring me so much happiness, and I used to bring her so much happiness and I long for that again. I miss her. So much.
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Hi sadboi,
I'm sorry that you had a rough day, your going through a difficult patch after the break-up, its painful seeing an ex with someone new, especially when they don't validate that pain.
Your self worth does not change because of her maladaptive behaviours. Of course you matter.
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