I'm not even sure what I can get from this community, but I'm here to find out.
OK, well, you pretty much nailed it, Soulsick, it's a community! You will find support, understanding, and help learning how to improve things. Become a regular on the board, reading the posts of others, seeing what they have in common with you, and replying to them. Become a part of the community.
I wanted to share with you some of the stages I went through when I first arrived here:
1. Venting and receiving empathy
2. Getting facts and getting my bearings ("What the heck is going on?"
3. Learning and changing some of my behaviors to make things better
I think most of us go through those stages, and in fact I think we go through them again if things go off the rails or we encounter a new problem. I was amazed that after a couple of decades of marriage, this old dog could learn new tricks that helped make things better. Not "all better," for sure, but enough of an improvement to be well worth the effort. I can give examples, but don't want to distract from the good questions asked by Snowglobe and Tattered Heart. Why don't you start with those and help us get to know you better?
Wentworth