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« on: September 19, 2017, 12:37:37 PM »

Does anyone else's mother or person with BPD fit this bill? Complains about them but feeds them on time every day has exact habits she follows with them. Loves having them there for her to look after.

I've read many articles about how a person with BPD, has a similar personality to cats for the most part.
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« Reply #1 on: September 19, 2017, 04:05:14 PM »

Does your mother also exhibit hoarding traits?
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« Reply #2 on: September 20, 2017, 01:57:50 AM »

Ummm not really, Id says she's more the opposite, she is OCD with cleaning. Drinks every single night and plays candy crush on her iPad with all the spare time she has
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« Reply #3 on: September 20, 2017, 11:46:20 AM »

Very interesting post. When I was a teenager living with my uBPD mother and enabling dad, we got to a point of having 20 cats at home. Lots of paper boxes and old blankets around the house for them to sleep. When a cat was sick, she didn't want to spend money with the Vet, so I had to try my best to help the animals, using the medicines we had at home. My mother was always complaining about the cats but was proud to be "such a good person" for taking care of them. She also has some traits of hoarding. Lives in a 2 floors house and the 1st floor is full of old furniture and stuff.  She is also OCD with cleaning, although she is only worried about the rooms that people from outside can see - doesn't really care about the rooms she can keep "hidden" from other people.
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« Reply #4 on: September 21, 2017, 01:04:56 PM »

That's interesting to here, I guess you get all types of people, my mother just has so much pride in her home etc but is miserable as ___ because she has no money to do anything and no friends. But she has made this for herself and this is more important to her.
Her cats are her only friends and the only thing that will give her attention. As she is so critical of and demanding of her children and friends.
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« Reply #5 on: October 22, 2017, 04:52:09 PM »

Yes! My uBPD mother has 2 cats that she adores. But day and night complains that they won't eat. She cooks for them, opens every can in the house, rages about the endless (cat) dishes she has to wash ... .and has ME driving all over town to buy food for her cats. I truly believe that a part of them not eating is the stress level in that house  I've been there when she's ill and they eat what I put down (while she's asleep in her bed) so ... .I could be wrong.  She hasn't gone anywhere for more than a few hours because she won't leave the cats alone, no boarding, no petsitter (they'd rob her). It's pretty insane.
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