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VIDEO: "What is parental alienation?" Parental alienation is when a parent allows a child to participate or hear them degrade the other parent. This is not uncommon in divorces and the children often adjust. In severe cases, however, it can be devastating to the child. This video provides a helpful overview.
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« on: October 11, 2017, 06:23:39 PM »

What is your manta? Something you can say to yourself to get over a slump?


Ive been saying;

As I was going up the stair
I met a girl who wasn’t there
She wasn’t there again today
I wish, I wish she’d go away
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« Reply #1 on: October 11, 2017, 07:31:24 PM »

Good idea for a thread!

I wouldn't call it a mantra as such but it worked for me.  When I was deep in the FOG in the beginning, I kept repeating out loud 'He is not my responsibility and I am'.  Eventually I got through to myself.

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« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2017, 01:16:58 PM »

The year after the breakup was the worst. I was going through a smear campaign. I didn’t have money to retain a lawyer but I filed in court and started court proceedings for custody. I didn’t care about the divorce her jaw yet wanted to sort that I the divorce but I didn’t that to stall so I started court without a lawyer.

When you’re married and have two incomes you rely on each other’s income, i had everything under my name and my ex refused to take responsibility for debt that we incurred together. I was constantly getting calls from debtors, i recall standing in front of the judge in family court and my cell phone was vibrating from calls from debtors  Being cool (click to insert in post) I also filed for bankruptcy protection.

There was major depression, anxiety / panic attacks, PTSD, emotional distress everything that other members go through and I was going through quotes online looking for inspiration and Winston Churchill caught my eye, that’s my favorite mantra when I’m going through really tough periods. Looking back it’s something else coming out the other end by hanging on to words of wisdom. My advice is have faith.

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If you're going through hell, keep going. Winston Churchill

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« Reply #3 on: October 12, 2017, 02:21:35 PM »

":)idn't cause it, can't cure it, can't control it"…... and as LuckyJim always notes, frequent reminders about the Serenity Prayer. 
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« Reply #4 on: October 12, 2017, 08:24:44 PM »

I didn't think of it as a mantra but I say it everytime I start to doubt myself -- from the time of the break up to just today in fact.  Simply

"I am love"

Because "I am love" I tried to understand her, because "I am love" I constantly forgave her, because "I am love" I did the things that made her feel abandoned (giving praise to barmaid, keeping ex wife's gift, mourning the loss of friends etc)

I cannot change.  I am love.  To be anything else is abhorrent to me

And oddly -- she had no interest in understanding me; she never forgave me -- even for things I never did, and I never felt abandoned by her -- despite some of her actions that would send any guy packing. Hmmmm... .

I am love 
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