We had had multiple conversations previous to this about how she pushed her ex husband away and how he talked to her about persuer/distancer relationship with her. She even told me that when i want her then she doesn't want me and visa versa. I thought i needed this boundary but I don't know if I handled it properly. In the moment i get emotionally flooded to by her rejection so although i stayed calm; i might not have been thinking clearly about how to handle it.
Does this describe the situation?
1. GF has chronic attachment issues (persuer/distancer relationship)
2. GF says she wants to date you and others until she finds what she wants (helper breakup)
3. You said you don't want to be in a "helper breakup" relationship. Call me when/if you change your mind.
4. Silence.
Helper breakup = supporting someone in a relationship while they look for someone better