In the second stage of detachment.

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

So he through me off the roller coaster for good this time. After moving out here to be with me, he disappeared, blocking  me on Facebook, iMessage, not responding to my emails. I'm still kind of shocked. I can't believe after all that that he could still act like that.  People are asking me about him, telling me about him, his posts, his appearances in public. I can't tell you how frustrated I am. Its been five years of this and I am still angry. NO body wants to get involved except my daughter because that was her stepfather. She is the only one who will stand up to himbecaise she's mad at him too for lying to her as well. I have to say this whole experience has really made me lose what little faith I had in men. No other man is coming to my rescue. No body will protect me or defend me from him. He's such a good liar that he conned almost everybody into believing he was the victim in the situation. I can't tell you how utterly angry that makes me. I even told him the one thing I hate the most in this world is lying so he threw right back in my face and accused me of lying to him even though he was the one who lied to me for the whole 5+ years.

I find it hard to believe that my feelings of disrespect were a fragile ego. I am definitely not known for having a fragile ego. They are very real feelings of disrespect. My anger is real anger, I am afraid of very little when it comes to relationships as this was not my first rodeo.

[unicorn2014]

So he through me off the roller coaster for good this time. After moving out here to be with me, he disappeared, blocking  me on Facebook, iMessage, not responding to my emails. I'm still kind of shocked. I can't believe after all that that he could still act like that.  People are asking me about him, telling me about him, his posts, his appearances in public. I can't tell you how frustrated I am. Its been five years of this and I am still angry. NO body wants to get involved except my daughter because that was her stepfather. She is the only one who will stand up to himbecaise she's mad at him too for lying to her as well. I have to say this whole experience has really made me lose what little faith I had in men. No other man is coming to my rescue. No body will protect me or defend me from him. He's such a good liar that he conned almost everybody into believing he was the victim in the situation. I can't tell you how utterly angry that makes me. I even told him the one thing I hate the most in this world is lying so he threw right back in my face and accused me of lying to him even though he was the one who lied to me for the whole 5+ years.

I find it hard to believe that my feelings of disrespect were a fragile ego. I am definitely not known for having a fragile ego. They are very real feelings of disrespect. My anger is real anger, I am afraid of very little when it comes to relationships as this was not my first rodeo.

[hope2727]

I'm so sorry. It sucks to no end. Your daughter is a brave strong soul. Be careful not to "Poke the bear" so to speak. I have made that mistake and it became unexpectedly dangerous. Once cornered with bad behaviour some people can become violent even when they have no prior history. Just a warning but I am sure you know him best. Meanwhile take gentle care of yourself. Hugs

[unicorn2014]

I'm so sorry. It sucks to no end. Your daughter is a brave strong soul. Be careful not to "Poke the bear" so to speak. I have made that mistake and it became unexpectedly dangerous. Once cornered with bad behaviour some people can become violent even when they have no prior history. Just a warning but I am sure you know him best. Meanwhile take gentle care of yourself. Hugs

Thanks I already talked to my community about filing a restraining order which is why i think he blocked me, it was preemptive. Its been a few days of no contact and now I'm feeling angry again. I think I may post on the self inventory board. I know part of this is stemming from my childhood. My mother is narcissistic too and its the same feelings of powerlessness and anger. This is the first real no contact because it was initiated by him, as if I was the one who was wrong. I had asked him for space, to chill out, to no avail, so he ended up having to make it all about me and skipping town only a month after moving out here. I don't just feel anger, I feel rage. Today we were supposed to go to the museum together as a friends and he let me down, I had even reserved a ticket for him and I ended up not being able to go because I was sick. I hate feeling this way.