Saw exes aunt and uncle yesterday

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Went to the casino with my dad, and I ran into my exes aunt.

THAT WAS HARD.

I really liked them... .

It wasn't awkward at all, just weird to see them.  It felt... .Good?  I know it shouldn't, but I could tell they both didn't have any hard feelings with me or anything.  Unless they're good fakers?

Idk.  Just having a rough time since this time of year was when I met her and fell in love.  Seeing them just hit a sore spot. 

Anyway.  Thankful for this board!

[Shedd]

Went to the casino with my dad, and I ran into my exes aunt.

THAT WAS HARD.

I really liked them... .

It wasn't awkward at all, just weird to see them.  It felt... .Good?  I know it shouldn't, but I could tell they both didn't have any hard feelings with me or anything.  Unless they're good fakers?

Idk.  Just having a rough time since this time of year was when I met her and fell in love.  Seeing them just hit a sore spot. 

Anyway.  Thankful for this board!

[40days_in_desert]

Hey Shedd, I can relate to how you feel. I got along well with my ex's grandparents. There are a lot of good memories with them in the past. I would still go and visit with them up until a few months ago when the divorce became more "difficult" with the ex. I just saw her grandfather at a gas station on Thanksgiving morning. Kind of awkward but not too uncomfortable. We said hello and made some small talk.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Shedd, Of course it's awkward, but I doubt they harbor any bad feelings towards you.  In fact, as you noted, you could "tell" that they didn't, so let's go with your gut on this.  Yup, it's a rough time of year for most of us.  I suggest you acknowledge your feelings as they come up, and then let them pass. 

LuckyJim

[Shedd]

 
I suggest you acknowledge your feelings as they come up, and then let them pass. 

I like this idea.

I'm also trying not to drink so I can handle my feelings better.  It seems to be working!  Even though I had a set back yesterday.  I feel much better today.  I could have easily drank last night since emotions were high.

[Tobiasfunke]

I was with my ex for 19 years. We grew up together, probably a major reason I never left. Her family truely is my family and they have been nothing ever but supportive of me. Having said that my interactions with them are very minimal. They invite to everything and I know they truely love me as a son/brother. I never go because it reminds me of the days we were together and that is still painful. It’s been 3 years now losing them hurts just as bad as the end of the marriage. All of it is just clumped together. I miss them very much.

[Shedd]

I was with my ex for 19 years. We grew up together, probably a major reason I never left. Her family truely is my family and they have been nothing ever but supportive of me. Having said that my interactions with them are very minimal. They invite to everything and I know they truely love me as a son/brother. I never go because it reminds me of the days we were together and that is still painful. It’s been 3 years now losing them hurts just as bad as the end of the marriage. All of it is just clumped together. I miss them very much.

That's really sad, but nice they still invite you! I never get contact from any of them ever because I didn't know them long enough to have that relationship.

I think this is one of the hardest parts about break ups is when you like their family and friends and don't want to lose them too.