still twisting my mind ..

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

I am only in contact with her when she wants... .she blocked my phone and only unblocks email periodically to check it... .but if i call her from another phone she will answer sometimes...

she has a " friend " who takes her to dinner sometimes etc... .of course i think its a little deepre than that and that she wants me out of the pic because she feels shame for cheating...

I am in another state... came home to see family for christmas... and had an accident broke 11 ribs and two bones in my leg, so im stuck herer for another 6 - 8 weeks and cant communicate with her unless she wants to... and this other man thing is driving me nuts... and then a couple weeks ago we talked every day, then she said smoe pretty rude selfish things and i called her on it and she blocked me from everything and said she doesnt want me to comee back... .

what to do... .what to ... .do... .everytime i think the ice might be melting and let down my guard , she kicks me in the face again.

[dumpsterdog]

I am only in contact with her when she wants... .she blocked my phone and only unblocks email periodically to check it... .but if i call her from another phone she will answer sometimes...

she has a " friend " who takes her to dinner sometimes etc... .of course i think its a little deepre than that and that she wants me out of the pic because she feels shame for cheating...

I am in another state... came home to see family for christmas... and had an accident broke 11 ribs and two bones in my leg, so im stuck herer for another 6 - 8 weeks and cant communicate with her unless she wants to... and this other man thing is driving me nuts... and then a couple weeks ago we talked every day, then she said smoe pretty rude selfish things and i called her on it and she blocked me from everything and said she doesnt want me to comee back... .

what to do... .what to ... .do... .everytime i think the ice might be melting and let down my guard , she kicks me in the face again.

[Jeffree]

what to do... .what to ... .do... .everytime i think the ice might be melting and let down my guard , she kicks me in the face again.

That is correct.

Do not let down your guard anymore, assume that when she gets the opportunity she will kick you in the face, and do everything in your power to not rely on her for anything.

Out of curiosity, when's the last time she ever did anything for YOU?

J

[Harley Quinn]

Hi dumpsterdog,

Wow, I'm so sorry to hear about your injuries.  It sounds like you were lucky to survive this accident.  I imagine that feeling so battered physically is getting you down before you think about your r/s.  How long would you say you have been broken up?  Are you finished with the r/s now or are circumstances causing the break?  I hope that you are putting in all the necessary effort to take care of your physical health and rebuild strength.  Do you have any help right now?

Love and light x

[dumpsterdog]

hi,,How long have we been broken up... .thats a matter of opinion... .i thinkg in here mind ( since she says she never cheated on my while we were together ... .) that indicates we have been broken up sine3 the first time she diciided to sleep with someone else... problem is ... i dont know when that was ... and she has never been honest about anything... she has told me she " slept with him " and then changed her story later... And then when i would try to pin her down and say " i just need to know di you or didnt you ... .she would just say " i already told you"... .there was never any sane communication, always going around in circles... .o straight answers ever... .so I dont know if she was sleeping around occasionally, or just saying that to hurt me... .either way... .dare i say it... .i think i fell in love with a slut, and told her I needed a monogamous relationships ... she she tried it and just couldnt handle it... .I moved in with her, provided food and insurance for her and her adult sone, and as soon as she got a job she threw me out,,, the first time for that was about three years ago... .she was on ambien for a while, and there were times where she didn't even remember sleeping with me, and later accused me of rape... .that being said, who know's how many times she slept with others and " didnt remember "... .so I guess I  have been holding on to a commitment from  her that never existed... .i guess i still am... .and it hurts... .


my final answer ... weve been broken up a long long time and just havent moved on, but she obviously has.

stbm ( sucks to b me )

[ArleighBurke]

Having to move on is difficult. Losing a loved one, no matter what sh!t they've done is painful.

But she has slept around, blocked you, accused you of rape, told you she doesn't want you back... .

It's time to move on - close that door. Accept it is over. Breathe, heal, and go find your next love.