I think it's over but then I am full of hope when he comes to 'talk about things' and says he is getting help and that this has been a real wake up call for him that he needs to change. We have lived apart before so it's not like him moving out is necessarily the end of our relationship. We lived apart for two whole years whilst married (he lived on the next street) as our relationship was so difficult. All my family and friends (apart from my church family) are saying I am doing the right thing to finally end this but at the end of the day I feel like I still love him and this is not rational given what he had been like and the things he has done.
I think many of us here can sympathise, I certainly can.
Every time I decided enough is enough, he talked me out of leaving, mainly with promises, guilt trips.
Do you know what that "hold" is? What is it about him that you cannot let go? Is it him as a person or is it what that relationship gives you? Is it love or is it some other reason like your own fears and insecurities?
The biggest worry is your child. You say he is unkind to your daughter.
