I have made so many excuses for their Dad, I've let them down so many times

[The Heather Garden]

Hello!

Last fall, I finally started an extensive search to figure out why my partner of 9 years acts the way he does. I thought it was NPD, then covert Narcissism, and just last week I realized its BPD. I read Stop Walking on Eggshells in 1 day. I couldn't believe what I was reading and how it was almost word for word describing him. He is a high functioning BPD. Nothing is ever his fault. We have tried marital counseling and now I realize why it didn't work. I'm hoping the relationship can be saved because I have a son and he has 2 daughters. I love my step daughters so much and feel like I'm the buffer for them. I have made so many excuses for their Dad, I've let them down so many times. This is my 3rd marriage and I don't want to fail again... .although I'm not sure I can handle it much longer.

It's so reassuring to know there are others out there that might have advice and support.

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[pearlsw]

Hi The Heather Garden,

 

Glad you found us! What are some of the things that gave you the tip off that he had BPD may I ask?

I hear ya about not wanting to have a marriage end! It's so hard!

warmly, pearl.

[Tattered Heart]

Hi Heather Garden ,

Welcome to BPD family. I'm sorry that things have been so hard in your relationship. You've found a great place for support. What would you say is the biggest issue you have in your relationship?