Who are you deep inside? Vulnerable child? Angry Child?

[Skip]

We often talk about the two personalities of our ex, but the fact is that we all operate in multiple personas and this who we are in a deep relationship - the flipping through our personas in difficult situations.

Knowledge and self awareness is power. Take the test, post your results and lets talk about it. Compare notes.

50% of us, flip into the Vulnerable child schema at times.  50% of us have a Demanding Parent schema mode we also activate from time to time.


The test contains 135 questions. By clicking here you will download
an excel spreadsheet from  bpdfamily's secure server. Please copy
your score into this thread!

Here is a random members profile - so you can see what we are posting:

Mode ---------------------------------- Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender <br/>:)etached Protector<br/>:)etached Self-Soother Self-aggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent <br/>:)emanding Parent Healthy Adult

Tendency --------------  --  --  --  --  --  Mod  Mod  Mod  --  --  --  --  Mod  High

Avg --------  2.00  2.30  1.30  1.22  2.33  3.20  3.71  2.89  2.25  1.40  1.22  1.90  3.30  4.70

4+ ------- 0 2 0 0 0 3 5 4 0 0 0 1 3 9

Compare to GP ------------------- Above norm Above norm -- -- -- -- Above norm Above norm -- -- -- Above norm -- --

Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.
Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
"Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
in other words, statistically higher than the general population.

[babyducks]

   ---------------------Respondent-----------------------   
Mode   Tendency   Avg
Vulnerable child    --    1.9
Angry Child    --    1.2
Enraged Child    --    1.0
Impulsive Child    --    1.0
Undisciplined Child    --    1.7
Happy Child    High    4.2
Compliant Surrender     --    2.1
Detached Protector    --    1.3
Detached Self-Soother    --    1.0
Self-aggrandizer    --    1.3
Bully and Attack mode     --    1.4
Punishing Parent     --    1.2
Demanding Parent     Mod    2.7
Healthy Adult    High    5.1


So I had a little trouble with the cut and paste function.   It came up unreadable.   

But here are my results.    With the Demanding Parent lurking in the background just as you suggested.

[steppedinone]

My cut/paste skills suck as well... .   

                        
   ---------------------Respondent-----------------------               --- Compared to General Population (GP)  ---            


Vulnerable child    --            2.4   0   0   1.47   1.98   Above norm      24
Angry Child            High 3.7   5   4   1.81   2.29   Above norm      37
Enraged Child    --            1.4   0   0   1.20   1.49   --                      14
Impulsive Child    --            2.6   1   0   2.15   2.68   --      23
Undisciplined Child    Mod    3.2   3   0   2.27   2.87   Above norm      19
Happy Child            High   4.9   9   7   4.52   5.06   --                      49
Compliant Surrender     Mod    3.7   3   2   2.51   3.07   Above norm      26
Detached Protector    --    2.1   1   0   1.59   2.11   Above norm      19
Detached Self-Soother Mod 3.8   2   1   1.93   2.58   Above norm               15
Self-aggrandizer    --            1.7   0   0   2.31   2.90   --                      17
Bully and Attack mode    2.0   1   0   1.72   2.23   --                      18
Punishing Parent     --    2.3   2   0   1.47   1.86   Above norm      23
Demanding Parent     Mod    3.5   7   2   3.06   3.66   --                      35
Healthy Adult            High 4.8   10   4   4.60   5.16   --                      48
                        


I'm happy and angry?

[Skip]

If you can't cut and paste, please send us the spreadsheet via email to the address on the front page of the website.

[valet]

This is my favorite test of all time, I'd say. Here are my latest results:

Mode ---------------------------------- Vulnerable child Angry Child Enraged Child Impulsive Child Undisciplined Child Happy Child Compliant Surrender Detached Protector Detached Self-Soother Self-aggrandizer Bully and Attack mode Punishing Parent Demanding Parent Healthy Adult

Tendency --------------  --  --  --  --  --  High  --  --  --  --  --  --  --  High

Avg --------   1.30   1.10   1.00   1.78   2.00   5.00   1.86   1.56   1.00   2.20   1.78   1.00   1.60   5.10

4+ ------- 0 0 0 0 0 10 0 0 0 0 1 0 1 10

Compare to GP ------------------- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- --

Tendency refers to the schema frameworks by which I may function.
Average is the mean of the numerical answers that I provided for each schema mode (rated from 1-6).
4+ is the number of the answers of 4 or higher that I provided for each schema mode.
"Above norm" is greater than 1 standard deviation from the mean (average) - stronger tendencies than the general population.
in other words, statistically higher than the general population.

I'd say that it's a pretty accurate depiction of me. I'm not perfect, but I feel good with myself and know that I can handle most, if not all, of what life has in store for me.