Welcome, RayTime23!
Just wanted to pop and join
Lady Itone and
Mutt in welcoming you to the discussion forums. Mostly we are here because someone in our lives has behaviors that are characteristic of BPD. They haven't all been diagnosed with BPD, but it's the behaviors, and how we deal with them, that is important. You will see from reading the posts here that you are far from alone.
Thank you for sharing what you have thus far:
I’m struggling watching the woman I love with BPD spiral out of control.
It sounds like you are having a really tough time. I'm sorry for that and glad you have found a place which can help you gain the answers that you seek. In what ways do you think can we help you? What behaviors is your significant other displaying that is causing you the most trouble? When you are ready, feel free to give us some sort of backstory, so that we can understand your situation better.
You will find a lot of people here to talk to, who will provide you with support and some good advice. Keep posting - it is very therapeutic, and you will be greeted by so many people with circumstances similar to your own. You will be amazed. Take care of yourself.
Keep writing, keep processing, keep learning!
-Speck