He doesn't have BPD, he has PTSD

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Family,

Am at the start of 6 months cooling off period, had tried everything else, my story is in posts here.
He was dxpwBPD for over 18 years by a psychiatrist, and after knowing him, living w him for over 10 years, it looks to me he has BPD.

He has a new psychiatrist, for about a year now.
Anyway, I guess now that he has a o.w., he doesn't want to have BPD.  it's like he is re creating himself.

I asked him last week, if he is in another r/s.
He said yes.  So i texted him Friday, that i am in a 6 month cooling off period.  I will not see him at all during this time. He can text or call me, if he needs to. He seems to enjoy seeing me and seeing his o.w. 

what I finally saw, was, I never allowed him to miss me.  At counseling, he said that he wanted to see me, I am very supportive of him... .

We would see eachother every week.

So I am at my last resort.  Am not going to be in his life, which really is how it is anyway.!

He is detached from me.

He gets to see if he likes his life without me.

He lost his part time job, he can't live on his disability income.  He hasn't paid his truck payment, which never would happen when we lived together, and it's only 160.

Part of me is concerned about him, financially.

He cell phone is all cracked and horrible.  He always had nice things, cell phone pristine, when we were together... .

Thank you for listening.  This next 6 months will be hard.

Thank you for your support!

juju

[juju2]

Family,

Am at the start of 6 months cooling off period, had tried everything else, my story is in posts here.
He was dxpwBPD for over 18 years by a psychiatrist, and after knowing him, living w him for over 10 years, it looks to me he has BPD.

He has a new psychiatrist, for about a year now.
Anyway, I guess now that he has a o.w., he doesn't want to have BPD.  it's like he is re creating himself.

I asked him last week, if he is in another r/s.
He said yes.  So i texted him Friday, that i am in a 6 month cooling off period.  I will not see him at all during this time. He can text or call me, if he needs to. He seems to enjoy seeing me and seeing his o.w. 

what I finally saw, was, I never allowed him to miss me.  At counseling, he said that he wanted to see me, I am very supportive of him... .

We would see eachother every week.

So I am at my last resort.  Am not going to be in his life, which really is how it is anyway.!

He is detached from me.

He gets to see if he likes his life without me.

He lost his part time job, he can't live on his disability income.  He hasn't paid his truck payment, which never would happen when we lived together, and it's only 160.

Part of me is concerned about him, financially.

He cell phone is all cracked and horrible.  He always had nice things, cell phone pristine, when we were together... .

Thank you for listening.  This next 6 months will be hard.

Thank you for your support!

juju

[Mutt]

Hi juju2,

10 years is a long history it’s natural to worry about your partner. I’m sorry to hear about dxpwBPD has a.o.w. That’s really difficult when thee is someone else in the picture how are you feeling about that? You seem like you’re holding yourself up well.

[juju2]

I guess ok.  Am powerless.  Am better because of this community of caring people... .!

It's something I have no control over.

When he left that msg, today, if he could come over, I heard something in his voice... .

Like sadness.

He also apologized for always being on me that the house was a mess.

He said his house is a mess... .

Wow.  Never thought I would hear that, family!

[Mutt]

I can relate with powerless. My voice carried with my exuBPDw she would listen to my voice I didn’t mean anything to her when the o.m. was in the picture. You power is how you react to him and the o.m. it looks like you have some results from doing a 180.