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« on: June 01, 2018, 04:43:59 PM »

Hi all,
After more then 4 years of pain, agony and driven to madness i can tell you i met someone new.
A wonderful very gorgious woman, very sweet and caring.
She was abandoned by her husband over two years ago. My BPDwife left when i was at work beginning 2014 and i have never seen and heard from her again.
My new gf and i can share our emotions because we both suffered in our same way.
I cannot tell you how healing this new path is for me.
Thanks so much for all the support i got over the years.
The crying is over. She lives 200 yards from me and i didnt know about her situation. We knew eachother allready for 27 years but didnt know our names until a few months ago. What a miracle.
Also extra love to all who still suffer.

Jo



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« Reply #1 on: June 01, 2018, 06:26:29 PM »

Hi Jo19854

I'm glad to hear of the healing you've gone through and how it is impacting your present!

What are some of the changes you've made that are so helpful in this new relationship? It is great that you've used the time to learn and grow.  Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

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« Reply #2 on: June 01, 2018, 08:35:11 PM »

Hi 19854,

That’s good news! That’s an inspiring post for others there were times that I didn’t think that I’d find someone else it feels great to meet someone new that’s a non.
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« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2018, 10:37:15 PM »

Jo,

Be careful of what you wish for.  

It can happen when we least expect it. I was there, gave up, and then happened across the love of my life when I least expected it. We almost missed it coming out of abusive relationships full of distrust and fear. But, it falls away over time if we stay open in spite the healthy filters we put up. BTW... .just in case, pay attention to those filters.


Take care and good luck.


Rj
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« Reply #4 on: June 02, 2018, 05:13:52 AM »

Hi Jo,

Thanks for letting us know your wonderful news!  I'm so happy that you are feeling better.  Are you in a place now where you are ready to let go of the past and move forwards with a fresh outlook?  You sound very positive, which is fantastic to hear after such a long and difficult road to recovery   

I hope that this goes well for you and whatever the long term outcome it will give you awareness that life can and does go on and there is always potential for love.  You're well aware of the red flags so I'm sure you'll be cautious in taking your time to allow things to unfold at a gentle pace.  How's the therapy going?

Love and light x
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« Reply #5 on: June 02, 2018, 07:05:35 PM »

Hi all,
After more then 4 years of pain, agony and driven to madness i can tell you i met someone new.
A wonderful very gorgious woman, very sweet and caring.
She was abandoned by her husband over two years ago. My BPDwife left when i was at work beginning 2014 and i have never seen and heard from her again.
My new gf and i can share our emotions because we both suffered in our same way.
I cannot tell you how healing this new path is for me.
Thanks so much for all the support i got over the years.
The crying is over. She lives 200 yards from me and i didnt know about her situation. We knew eachother allready for 27 years but didnt know our names until a few months ago. What a miracle.
Also extra love to all who still suffer.

Jo






Nothing like a good story , congratulations and I’m glad you found love and a good woman!
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