Behaviours i put up with

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Do you have local charity organisations who do house clearances?  Scrap metal collection companies?  I'd be thinking ahead.  He knows you well and probably doesn't take your deadline very seriously.  You've given him a ton of notice (18 months will it be?) so it would be fair to rid yourself of this stuff if he fails to collect by the date.  I'd have something at the ready for first thing the following morning.  Reclaim your personal power juju.  It is yours to take back.  If it feels uncomfortable, you're probably growing from the experience.   

Love and light x

[Harley Quinn]

Do you have local charity organisations who do house clearances?  Scrap metal collection companies?  I'd be thinking ahead.  He knows you well and probably doesn't take your deadline very seriously.  You've given him a ton of notice (18 months will it be?) so it would be fair to rid yourself of this stuff if he fails to collect by the date.  I'd have something at the ready for first thing the following morning.  Reclaim your personal power juju.  It is yours to take back.  If it feels uncomfortable, you're probably growing from the experience.   

Love and light x

[juju2]

I was thinking about those portable units, they deliver to your home, and you can have them delivered somewhere else, and then, where would that be?  We are back at the same problem, some idea will present.   More will be revealed... .  its ok my family.  Went to a meeting last nite and i am learning to turn my problems over to my Higher Power.   I cant solve this on my own.

With thanks, j

[Harley Quinn]

Juju it's a difficult one, that's for sure and an awful shame you have to be inconvenienced, however you solve this.  At the same time it's wonderful to hear that you have been thinking about practical solutions.  Sometimes our Higher Power can show us the way and we must do the doing.  :)oes that make sense?  

Seems to me over time you've gotten to a place of wanting to have this stuff removed from surrounding you, and that is a positive step in itself.  Whilst acceptance is important, the acceptance we are looking for in detaching is acceptance that things are over and the r/s is not salvageable.  Also that it is for the best as it wasn't healthy for us.  You don't have to accept being taken advantage of.  

You're doing great at attending your meetings regularly and that is a huge credit to you.  Getting all the support you can is the right way to go.  :)oes anyone at your meetings have any thoughts on a solution to the belongings situation?  A friend or family member perhaps?  Sometimes answers come from the most unexpected places and after all, we don't know what we don't know.  Keep up the great work juju in your recovery.

Love and light x

[juju2]

Thank you H.  What i like about the program, is i can go at my own pace---includes situations, etc.
and being stubborn, i havent closed the door.  Just this morning he emailed me that its his gr dtr birthday today, and he thought i would want to know... .   guess that means something.   idk what... .  am just starting to get that i dont know.  There is so much i dont know.   I dont have to know! my higher power knows.   !

take good care, j

[CryWolf]

I think he may be giving you breadcrumbs Juju. He is giving you little bits of breadcrumbs to keep you in the "loop". what do you think?

[juju2]

Hi cry,

True, who knows.   Am moving away from thinking too much.   Its healthier for me.

Frankly, our whole r/s was a lot of bread crumbs.

[CryWolf]

how are you doing Juju?

[juju2]

Doing ok Cry, thank you for asking.

Am getting healthier.   Focusing on what i can change.   I met two different men, have seen they arent for me, and it will be ok.   Its a sign that i am not desparate, and that am acting on redflags.