Starting to cave in, thinking of divorce

[anon56789]

Hi, I have only been on this board a couple times. I am not sure if this is an appropriate request or not here. Not sure of the etiquette.

I am looking for someone who might be in a similar situation to chat/correspond with. I am in a Blended Family and my 2nd wife has shown extreme BPD actions. I have two bio kids and a High Anxiety ex wife that complicates things further.

Please send me a message if you would like to connect and share stories/advice on how to cope. Lately I am starting to cave in to the thinking of Divorce by feeling defeated.  

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[pearlsw]

Hi anon56789,

Thanks for asking!

What we do here on the site is have public discussions that all members can join in and share their thoughts about.

A private discussion would not be fruitful. It would not yield the support you need, put too much pressure on other members who are also struggling, and it would keep you behind the scenes rather than out here getting help from a range of people. It is better to have the whole community here with you following your whole story, getting to know your issues, and being able to offer support collectively.

Why are you feeling like you might want to divorce?

How are you coping lately? What is upsetting you most? Is there anything you can do to make things at least a little better?

What BPD traits does she seem to have?

wishing you the best, pearl.

[BeagleGirl]

anon56789,

I want to second what pearlsw has shared about the structure and value of this website.  I have noticed that there are probably about 10 reads for every post made and I've been around long enough to hear stories from people who quietly read and learned and were encouraged/challenged by the stories of others.  I hope that you will share your story here.  I feel confident that you will find a number of people who share and/or can speak to your experiences.

One other thing you may want to do, if you aren't already doing so, is to take a look at some of the other boards.  When I was contemplating divorce, I spent a little time reading on the Family Law, Custody, Co-parenting, Divorce board.  It gave me some perspective on what I might be getting myself into.  The Conflicted or Just Tolerating It board introduced me to people who were also questioning "Is it worth it?".

You mentioned that you've been on the board a few times.  Have you had a chance to read any of the resource articles or try out any of the tools? 

   Let us know how we can best support you.

BeagleGirl