If you had one to do over...

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looking back, there were so many moments in my relationship that i could have handled better, more maturely and constructively, and spared myself, my partner, and my relationship a lot of hardship.

while we have to operate in the present and build for the future, its important to learn from our mistakes. maybe theres a persistent hurdle in your relationship where youve finally gotten a handle on it, or are on the cusp of doing so.

what is one incident/event from your relationship that, knowing what you know now, you would handle differently? what would you do differently, whether it meant improvement, or even if it meant threatening the stability/survival of your relationship?

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[stixx44]

Excellent question, and one that I’ve gone over in my mind hundreds of times. 

The problems in my relationship took a fatal turn when I went to a wedding without her.  It was my nephew’s wedding out of state.  I asked her to go (she would meet my family for the first time.). We were then going to go across the state to spend a romantic few days at my vacation home in the woods.

I told my nephew that I was bringing a date.  Three weeks before the wedding we had a huge argument and ended our relationship. A week before the wedding I called my nephew and told him I was now coming single so he could have the final count.

A few days before the wedding we reconciled.  I felt it was too late for her to come so I went alone.  She was devastated.  I apologized but didn’t want to call my nephew a third time and screw up his count.

We never really recovered from that.  I take the blame.  I should’ve made it right and brought her with me.  She never forgave me and I feel horrible about that incident.