I want to heal my marriage, grow and learn to handle conflicts better and more positively. I want the commitment, without it, the relationship feels very unsafe.
Marie1971, if you want to do these things, id encourage you to open a post on the Bettering board, and learn the skills/tools there. this board is more about working through the stages of grief, once we are done with the relationship, and as such, most of the advice/support will revolve around that.
regardless, choosing a path and committing to it, along with a strong support system are really critical. you dont have to do this alone, and id encourage you to lean on that support.