does anyone have experience with such a situation? is there any well established timeline for when provocations tend to stop?
Hey! Good question and also a common one. It sounds like you are sure that you want the disconnect but are wary of any fallout. That is normal in these situations.
My suggestion would be to just let it be as it is. You do have the option of blocking the number so that the texts never even reach your phone if that would help with the, I imagine, anxiety. Some find the draw to know
IF they are still texting to be as overwhelming as actually getting the text. The blocking would also eliminate that self created pressure.
As to when they stop... .different or everyone. My experience was that I never really got any texts after a split but almost 5 months to the day, 3 separate times ( at myself), the phone would ding and there she was reengaging.
I see two options. Allow the texts to get through when and if they are sent
OR block the number and never have to worry about calls or texts. If there is an email connection you can usually create a rule that sends those straight to the junk or spam folder instantly.
It is up to you and what you think your strength is capable of handling.
Good Luck