Hi,
I’m just going on the assumption that you are talking about a former romantic partner.
How did it end? Why did you stop speaking?
Yes, a former partner.
Well.. in a nutshell, her and I took a trip to her sister's house. On the way there, she became irritated because my mood was 'bad' - I wasn't in a bad mood, but I was slightly subdued because I was anxious about going to her family's house due to hypervigliance that she had displayed prior, accusing me of being rude around her family etc, despite her family always welcoming and receiving me warmly. Her increasing irritation and anger turned into a 'rage' in front of her family, during which she turned to me and told me to leave, and threatened me with the police. I left. She then ended things an hour later, and told me I had disrespected her family, etc.
There was then a few weeks of intermittent contact - I tried to talk to her once about the event at the sister's, she didn't want to discuss it and became irritated and closed off. She told me we could be friends and only talk about certain subjects, etc. I tried to go along with this, but I found it emotionally difficult, plus she was still displaying slight push/pull by talking to me at times then shutting off.
I decided to approach her and tell her that I was not ready to be friends and that I would be taking some time for myself. Before I could get to that, she became angry, swore, threatened me with blocking/silence, etc.
We then had a phone call where she was angry again - I tried to change the subject several times, but she seemed unable to control her anger. During this call, she became angrier, listing everything she believed to be wrong with me in a another rant-type way. She then suddenly hung up and messaged me, telling me she was going to block me. I tried to record all of this but the recording failed. She blocked me.
the next morning, I emailed her asking to unblock me as I hated falling out with her. She unblocked me and said we could try again, 'start fresh' as she put it.
She did not ever say another thing to me, either in person or over messages.
Now that I've written it out, I can see how conflict-filled it is, but I am struggling with having just left things like this and I don't understand, still, why she just disappeared. So I am thinking that now a substantial time has passed, maybe she would be willing to engage with me.