BPD Enablers and Permanently Split Black?

[JerichoJax]

Does anyone know if someone with BPD, after splitting you black to leave, will listen to relatives and/or so-called friends parroting back their false narrative on why they left the relationship thus keeping you split black permanently?

For two months I have been treated to the silent treatment, or I am being ghosted not sure which one.  Through some of his family I have heard his narrative which is just a projection of how he was treating me.  Given the heavy enmeshment with his sister and his so-called friends being putty in his hands I can see them repeating back what he said about me thinking they are helping him when he is questioning his decisions to leave.  These same people that are supporting his decision are the same ones that said I was the best thing that ever happened to him while we were married.

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[Ozzie101]

I don't have experience with this personally, but it sounds like a possible scenario. A pwBPD will latch onto people who support their feelings and views of situation. They're desperate for validation. If they get that from friends and family, then yes, they'll probably hang on.

Even in relationships that don't involve a PD, it's common for friends and family to support their loved one in a break-up and "take sides." For a pwBPD, I could see their response and feelings about it to be enhanced.

Will the narrative turn around? It might. The friends and family may grow tired of it or they may start to question what they've been told. Depends on the situation.

That said, it's got to be very frustrating for you to know you've been painted black and that untruths are being spread about you. I'm sorry. Do you have friends and family of your own you can turn to who can give you support?