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« Reply #30 on: September 19, 2019, 07:54:06 AM »

Undiagnosed, untreated mental illness, high levels of marital conflict, exposure to substance abuse, physical and emotional abuse, chronic feelings of being unsafe, trouble recognizing and labeling and regulating feelings -- that's what destroys kids.

By the time divorce is being discussed, it's a punctuation mark to a long sentence of suffering and failure to thrive.

Divorce gave my son one house where his nervous system got a break. He was able to dial down the cortisol levels and I could parent him safely instead of the two of us being cowed into fear-based behaviors.

Your wife was running through every possible item of persuasion she could think of, hoping one would work. She has not prepared and felt she was losing control. Once she gets to a lawyer there will likely be a change of heart and her aggression may intensify.
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« Reply #31 on: October 13, 2019, 03:59:48 PM »

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