I feel like I'm done.

[wncw]

I feel like I am done and want out but I can't seem to make myself pull the trigger on a divorce. He has been in treatment for almost three months but I don't see much to any progress. I didn't realize how unsafe I felt until he was gone for about three weeks. My children are ok just sad that they miss their dad. The unknown freaks me out and I am not sure how to manage it all. I go to counseling weekly but I can tell I'm really struggling with everything. I don't want him to come home.

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[once removed]

hi wncw, and

you do sound exhausted.

what led up to his receiving treatment, and what sort of treatment is he receiving?

I didn't realize how unsafe I felt

what has you feeling unsafe?

[Stillhopeful4]

Hi wncw,

 
Welcome!  I know how you feel.  I think being a bit ambivalent during this time is normal.  Can you tell us more about your situation?  How long have you been with your BPD spouse?  From your comments it sounds like he's a an impatient facility, am I correct?  How long is he there for?  Can you give us some examples of why you suspect BPD or has he been formally diagnosed.

SH4