I am devastated as I mourned this loss for months and was hoping we could at least talk. I forgave his smear campaign and at least wanted the chance to apologize. He refused but continues to stay in touch with my mother who talks trash with him about me . Is there anything I can do to fix this, or at the very least let go kindly and with love ? My heart is hurting and I don’t want to stay split black forever
You’re not going to split black forever although if you shame a pwBPD it would only prolong it. I’m not saying that you shamed them it’s just in general. You’re going through a difficult time and it can really hard to look at things objectively.
You probably already know that it’s not a good idea to involve yourself with the drama between him and your mom. The best thing to do is to give him space and to take care of yourself on the meantime.
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