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« on: January 24, 2020, 03:52:00 PM »

Hello all. I have been away for a month and a half due to a stroke that paralyzed the left half of my body. I am happy to say I have recovered a lot of function in my body and hope to return home soon. I see there are a lot of newbies here. That is so great! The more of us who come together the more support we can give each other. Since not everyone knows my story I will give a brief recap. My 25 year old son suffers from BPD and drug addiction. He also has a history of selling drugs that has landed him with a yet to be adjudicated felony drug charge. He has been hospitalized many times for suicide attempts and other self harm. As I was in the hospital focusing on my own recovery he had to be hospitalized yet again plus he got arrested yet again this time on a gun charge. He is currently in jail awaiting indictment. His friends paid for his lawyer and raised his bail. My husband and I refused to contribute which I think was a good decision. My husband had consigned on a lease with my son but he is breaking it ( son knows and agrees ) DH put DS stuff in storage. My husband found a dual diagnosis treatment place out of state. Our hope is that if our son gets out on bail he will go for at least 90 days. The point is after all this I still have hope. Like my name says faith, hope, and love will see us through.
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Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders
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« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2020, 04:08:46 PM »

Hey Faith,
So good to hear from you circumstances not withstanding.

I am so relieved to know you are on the mend..I am glad you're not in the reeds with your son but sad your poor husband is picking up the pieces again.

I had missed you my friend
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« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2020, 04:17:31 PM »

I missed you too. It is good to be back.
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« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2020, 05:02:24 PM »

Faith,

I hear your strength and resolve coming thru in your post. I’m sorry about your son’s current struggles, but am encouraged by your hopefulness. We are are our own best cheerleaders. Keep up the critical self care, Faith!
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« Reply #4 on: January 24, 2020, 06:34:23 PM »

So good to hear from you. I have been wondering if you were ok. Glad to see you are on the mend. Hopefully things will work out for your son. You have done everything possible for him.   Take care and do what the docs tell you.  Take care. Your friends. ❤️❤️❤️
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« Reply #5 on: January 24, 2020, 08:21:39 PM »

Faith, so happy to see you here and hear that you are recovering from the stroke. Sorry to hear about your son, though, and hoping he goes through the 90 day program. Your faith, hope and love are an inspiration to us all.

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« Reply #6 on: January 25, 2020, 09:01:47 AM »

Faith!  I am so happy to hear from you and you being on the mend!
Your post is filled with success - even about your son.  The way I see it is you have handled the situation beautifully.  It is awesome  you and your husband for taking care of yourselves  first and your assets.  You must know you have done everything humanly possible for your adult son.  This latest episode may be the thing that gets him to seek out the 90 day program. Please allow yourself to feel good about your great boundary setting.  Take care of yourself, we are  rooting for your speedy recovery.
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« Reply #7 on: January 26, 2020, 09:26:19 AM »

Welcome back FHL  Virtual hug (click to insert in post)

You've had a lot going on this year, wow. You're a source of strength and hope, always getting back up on the saddle.

DS is still struggling to overcome his old ways. Does he communicate with you from jail? Do you notice a change in your husband when it comes to how he supports DS?
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« Reply #8 on: January 26, 2020, 01:40:36 PM »

Live and learned, my son was bailed out of jail yesterday. He called me once to say he loved me but I was in therapy at the time do we couldn't talk much. My husband is totally stressed out between packing up the apartment he consigned on and lawyers and my situation. I worry about his health. All I can do from this hospital bed is to try to be a calming presence. Sometimes I succeed. Sometimes not.
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« Reply #9 on: January 28, 2020, 01:14:22 PM »

Faith, Hope and Love will certainly see us through. I'm relieved you are in recovery, you are back, in the fold with us. Easy does it, gently my friend.  Virtual hug (click to insert in post)

Faith, I'm wondering what support you and H have, friends, family, community, who are lifting you up?  And for when you come home.

Love WDx With affection (click to insert in post)
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« Reply #10 on: January 28, 2020, 05:57:34 PM »

I have tons of support. My family, tons of friends and an amazingly loving church. Plus my husband and I are able to hire people to do practical things around the house.
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« Reply #11 on: January 28, 2020, 08:12:18 PM »

That's good to hear, kinda knew it. It is an important question to ask, check in, check up. 
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« Reply #12 on: January 29, 2020, 07:17:26 AM »

It is an important question. Thanks for asking.
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