Why Do You Love Them?

[paperinkart]

Hi friends,

Sorry for a double post in one day. I’m just feeling a bit down and disheartened today. It feels like BPD plays such a big role in my relationship and sometimes I feel like an idiot for sticking around and putting up with all of this. I know I could leave and be with someone who didn’t have such a complicated brain but...it just wouldn’t be HIM, you know?

So I want to bring some positivity in here and focus on the good.

Please tell me why you love your pwBPD. What is your favourite thing(s) about them? What do they do that makes your heart sing?

I’ll start...he is the funniest person I’ve ever met. He is caring and gentle and gives the best advice when I’m feeling sad. He’s vibrant and the energy he gets when he’s inspired and excited about something is so incredible to watch and be a part of. He supports me and believes in my more than I even believe in myself.

Okay, your turn! Please please keep it positive in here- your girl needs it today! Thanks everyone 

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[once removed]

im no longer in a relationship with someone with bpd traits, but i loved a lot of things about her.

one that comes to mind is that she was the most thoughtful gift giver ive ever met in my life. shed give you something that was so clever and thoughtful, and really said "i get you and appreciate you as a person".

im not a materialistic guy, so it wasnt about gifts per se, but id love to find that level of thoughtfulness in a future partner.

[Dungahass]

Hey paperinkart. For me, what I love about this girl is her keen mind. BPD aside, she's sharp and quick-witted AF. She has a way with words, so eloquent. Funny, deep, and knows just what to ask when I tell her about my personal life, or my fears, just knowing how to get past the surface. There has been a comfort in opening up and talking with her that I haven't gotten with anyone in the past. We've had countless phone convos that would last for 6-7 hours, and only exhaustion would take us away from them, only to return to another round the next day. She knows more about me than anyone before her. And like me, she's incredibly perceptive to other people's body language, which I don't see in many others.

And she has insight to last for days, into her own turmoil. She knows some things are "wrong" with her. All of the BPD traits I have talked about here but not with her, she has said them herself over the last couple years. There is a depth to her that I adore.

She's also a single mom, and even though I sometimes get confused with some decisions she makes with her 4 year old daughter, she has raised the little one on her own, and what an amazing little girl she is. So smart, and communicative. I love her as much as I love my pwBPD traits.

And of course, I find her beautiful and sexy. I've never been more attracted to anyone before. Love-tinted glasses perhaps, sure, but I do love these things about her.

[khibomsis]

The sex is mindblowing  
Seriously though, she is sweet and kind, smart, creative and sassy. Most of all I admire her courage. Making it through life with BPD is a hell of a thing. I mean, it is not something you ask for. Your only choice is how to handle it. I am not sure I would be able to handle it with as much commitment as she does.  Somehow out of all of it she is determined to make a great life. I find it a constant inspiration 

[cosmical]

She's impulsive... she gets these crazy off the wall ideas that she just has to follow through with. I love watching someone want something so much. It's contagious and it makes life so much more colorful.

She's incredibly thoughtful... she knows how to give the sweetest gifts and make the most romantic gestures.

She always has something insightful to say. Honestly I'm not the best conversationalist, but it flows more naturally with her than with anyone else and I forget that I'm a massive introvert.

She gives me these little "quests" all the time. Like a certain book I must read, a show I must watch, or some difficult to find item I have to track down. Makes it feel like I'm with her even when I'm not (LDR).

I'm the first person she comes to about anything. Makes me feel like I'm the most important person in her life.

Damn I miss her!