How do you know what your boundries are?

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Whereas my mate only once talked about it with me, about a month after it happened, and he said, laughing: "oh man I dodged a bullet here. Good thing this guy showed up, because I could have wasted more time. Poor mf, god bless him." I never heard anything about the whole situation after he has grieved it.

The average time for the BPD cycle to rear its ugly head is appx 1 month. It would be hard for me to become too invested, in this amount of time. I make sure to speak with potential partners, asking questions that could later be asked again and also until Im comfortable...Your buddy has good instincts

I don't know if it's narc traits or self-esteem, or if they are the same, but having that buffer... man, the difference it makes in the lives of my friends is night and day. So I'll try to fake it for the time being,
Its all about self esteem and all negative traits have their challenges.
Its about being more grounded. Typically, those having a better upbringing will run like hell. They may not know the full extent of everything in play, but they dont feel the need to play. For me, I think I can relate to others pain fairly well. I just never understood( or even knew) the differences of mental illnesses. Understanding brought a lot of clarity. Believing in me, took me the rest of the way...and that is correct, fake it, till you make it. its a better way of life, by you, for you. I wish you well, Peace

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Whereas my mate only once talked about it with me, about a month after it happened, and he said, laughing: "oh man I dodged a bullet here. Good thing this guy showed up, because I could have wasted more time. Poor mf, god bless him." I never heard anything about the whole situation after he has grieved it.

The average time for the BPD cycle to rear its ugly head is appx 1 month. It would be hard for me to become too invested, in this amount of time. I make sure to speak with potential partners, asking questions that could later be asked again and also until Im comfortable...Your buddy has good instincts

I don't know if it's narc traits or self-esteem, or if they are the same, but having that buffer... man, the difference it makes in the lives of my friends is night and day. So I'll try to fake it for the time being,
Its all about self esteem and all negative traits have their challenges.
Its about being more grounded. Typically, those having a better upbringing will run like hell. They may not know the full extent of everything in play, but they dont feel the need to play. For me, I think I can relate to others pain fairly well. I just never understood( or even knew) the differences of mental illnesses. Understanding brought a lot of clarity. Believing in me, took me the rest of the way...and that is correct, fake it, till you make it. its a better way of life, by you, for you. I wish you well, Peace

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