Difficult relationship

[John Purton]

Hi,

I'm living with my partner who has said she has BPD (when drunk), but will not admit this when sober. She had a difficult and neglectful childhood and displays many symptoms of BPD.

She is suspicious of my ex-partner and creating row after row, which is destroying the relationship. No amount of reassurance works.

What can I do?

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[Rev]

Hi,

I'm living with my partner who has said she has BPD (when drunk), but will not admit this when sober. She had a difficult and neglectful childhood and displays many symptoms of BPD.

She is suspicious of my ex-partner and creating row after row, which is destroying the relationship. No amount of reassurance works.

What can I do?

Hi John...

Welcome!  You sound as if you are in a relatively balanced place right now - in the sense that you have some perspective on where you find yourself.

Have you read / listened to the book  "Stop Walking on Eggshells"?  You can find it for free on YouTube and it takes about 8 hours to listen to it.  It is an excellent resource because it maps out a lot of general information in a non-judgmental way. 

Beyond that, could you say a little bit more about your relationship?

How did you meet?
How long have you been together?
Kids?
Co-habitating?

Those kinds of details.

Rev