BPD spouse with Dissociative Identity Disorder

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Hi everyone!  I’m at a complete loss of what to do. I know o have a lot of resentment, years of arguing back, and my fair share of just not being able to handle things anymore, but can you please help me with some perspective?

My undiagnosed BPD husband also has dissociative identity disorder. It is also undiagnosed, but I have been married to him for 25 years, together for 31, and have had him tell me he had at least 44 personalities so I know they are there. I have witnessed them, heard them call themselves by different names, seen when he switches and can’t remember what is going on, he tells our girls his different names and they say hey mom the dad personality has been here again.

He has been seeing a therapist but things are better in some ways but extremely worse in others. He now completely denies any of his responsibility in the issues in our relationship. Tells me he was never responsible for anything that happened.  Our relationship issues are all me because I am bitter and crazy. He says  he has no idea what I’m talking about when I say don’t you remember when you told me about all of these personalities?  He has no clue and now sees himself as blameless in the problems in our relationship.

He even has the audacity to try to use psychology on me saying - I’m not going to put up with your behavior anymore. I just don’t think I can do this relationship. You are so mean and bitter am I have done nothing. Yet, he’s not really better. He can go for about two weeks without having any issues and then goes off the rails. He sits in his office all the time, not speaking to me because I am ungrateful for of all he has done for me and our family. If I’m out, he will sit with the girls in the living room and watch movies. When I get there, he leaves.

Sorry to put the tip of the ice burg of my rambling rant out here. I could go on for 500 pages.

So my question is, does anyone else’s significant other BPD also have blatant dissociative identity disorder?  Have they gone through therapy (he’s done EMDR,)and is having this same reaction?

Yes I’m having resentment issues and I have my own therapist, but this is just making things even worse.

I don’t know what to do or where to go from here because now he’s lost even the logical personalities and is complete self righteous.

Thank you!

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Hi everyone!  I’m at a complete loss of what to do. I know o have a lot of resentment, years of arguing back, and my fair share of just not being able to handle things anymore, but can you please help me with some perspective?

My undiagnosed BPD husband also has dissociative identity disorder. It is also undiagnosed, but I have been married to him for 25 years, together for 31, and have had him tell me he had at least 44 personalities so I know they are there. I have witnessed them, heard them call themselves by different names, seen when he switches and can’t remember what is going on, he tells our girls his different names and they say hey mom the dad personality has been here again.

He has been seeing a therapist but things are better in some ways but extremely worse in others. He now completely denies any of his responsibility in the issues in our relationship. Tells me he was never responsible for anything that happened.  Our relationship issues are all me because I am bitter and crazy. He says  he has no idea what I’m talking about when I say don’t you remember when you told me about all of these personalities?  He has no clue and now sees himself as blameless in the problems in our relationship.

He even has the audacity to try to use psychology on me saying - I’m not going to put up with your behavior anymore. I just don’t think I can do this relationship. You are so mean and bitter am I have done nothing. Yet, he’s not really better. He can go for about two weeks without having any issues and then goes off the rails. He sits in his office all the time, not speaking to me because I am ungrateful for of all he has done for me and our family. If I’m out, he will sit with the girls in the living room and watch movies. When I get there, he leaves.

Sorry to put the tip of the ice burg of my rambling rant out here. I could go on for 500 pages.

So my question is, does anyone else’s significant other BPD also have blatant dissociative identity disorder?  Have they gone through therapy (he’s done EMDR,)and is having this same reaction?

Yes I’m having resentment issues and I have my own therapist, but this is just making things even worse.

I don’t know what to do or where to go from here because now he’s lost even the logical personalities and is complete self righteous.

Thank you!

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