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[Delaney828]

  Hi... I'm not sure where to start. I have been dating a man for several years that I believe has BPD. He told me that he was diagnosed with BPD, but that follow up with his regular therapist revealed that he does not have BPD. He recently lost his mother and his reaction to her passing was over the top. While discussing funeral arrangements he became enraged with me and began yelling, long story short, he told me he did not want me there.  I wish I could say this is an isolated incident, but... it's not. Things can go really well for a while then we are back on an emotional roller coaster. He has been sober for over 30 years, however, he still has addictive behaviors. He is currently not speaking to me, I am at a loss here and not sure what to do. Half the time I feel like I am losing my own sanity. Any insight/guidance or support that is out there... please help, I'm all ears.

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[truthdevotee]

Hello... I just want to say, I know (to a certain extent) what you're going through. I've been with my partner for 8 years, and things are just as difficult as when we started. We have to be so strong to continue on this path. And we need people who understand what we're going through. I feel I've found that for the first time in arriving at this forum, two days ago.

I see that it's quiet here on the forum. But the more we share with one another, the more we can help each other, lift each other up, and keep going. It's a tough situation. I can see that so many of us are tired and exhausted. I can feel that feeling inside my stomach right now. I need a long vacation!

With two toddler boys at home it's especially challenging times... as they become more independent I hope things will get easier. Time will tell. For now I just need to keep coming back and working recovery every day. It's the only lifeline along with the medications I'm so grateful have been engineered and help me to live at my best.

Sending you love and support