My relationship is profoundly better, and all because of what I have learned here.
It’s much more hopeful if your partner has traits, rather than fullblown BPD, but in any case, what you can learn will make things better since you will stop making things worse.
People with BPD are very emotional thinkers and many of their partners are rational thinkers. We mistakenly believe that if we can communicate well enough, we can fix things. Unfortunately, that’s not the case.
Our partners want validation. This doesn’t mean agreeing with them, rather it means understanding how they view the world. That’s a good place to start.
https://bpdfamily.com/content/communication-skills-dont-be-invalidatingAnd here’s a video on the same topic:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=206132