https://www.northpointrecovery.com/addiction-quizzes/codependent-quiz.phpAs I was taking the quiz at the link above, I realized how my first codependent relationship was with my mother, but that led to several more codependent relationships, including an ex-husband, several stepchildren, and even some friends.
Have I ever had a normal relationship?
My quiz and the results:
There are several signs of codependency that you can look for in your own relationships. These include:
Only feeling a sense of purpose when you've made excessive sacrifices to care for someone else's needs. YES, currently trying to do that in the case of my BPD'd mom and my step daughter.
Finding it impossible to say no when another person is making constant demands on you. Yup. I literally got an email from my ex-husband yesterday (tax day) saying he's still in love with me. Why does he contact me on tax day? Because, yup, I paid all the bills when we were together, including the taxes every year. Weird how he thinks of me on this day! Not Valentines day...not my birthday. ha ha. We split up 10 years ago, omg
Covering for another person when they get into trouble with the law. Currently consumed with worry my Mom is going to get in trouble with the law. Make that both my parents. Not sure they're paying their taxes. Why is this my problem?
Frequently worrying about what other people think of you. yes, I do this. Especially wonder what my FOO thinks.
Feeling as though your relationship has you trapped. Definetly feeling that my Mom has trapped me.
Remaining silent because you want to avoid arguments and you don't want to rock the boat. Not so much, lately, but in the past yes. Lately, I'm more like that exploding volcano that has been pent up for a few too many decades
Feeling that you're not satisfied with your life outside of a specific person. ugh, yes, mother again
Staying with a partner even when you can easily recognize unhealthy behaviors. Not currently, but I have done this in the past
Offering support to another person even though it's causing you physical or mental anguish. ugh, bingo
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