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« on: March 28, 2022, 06:40:44 PM »

I always see myself part of the victim triangle
And discovered that there is a middle. How to move there
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« Reply #1 on: April 18, 2022, 05:13:07 PM »

Hi Omeros, and welcome.

You've raised a great question -- once we discover that there is another way... that's great that we know it, but how do we do it?

I was actually thinking about the "winner's triangle" when I was out on a run the other day, before seeing your post here. Wondering if you've seen it:

https://bpdfamily.com/content/karpman-drama-triangle

(scroll down to the section called "Start Using the Caring Triangle / Winning Triangle")

I've also heard "moving to the middle of the triangle" as "taking a coaching perspective".

Here's an older workshop (last post is from 2020) on Karpman drama triangle dynamics, not sure if you've seen this yet either:

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=108440.0

Anyway, I also struggle with moving to the middle. My "starting gate position", as author Lynne Forrest terms it (she also works with triangle dynamics here: https://www.lynneforrest.com/articles/2008/06/the-faces-of-victim/), is probably usually Victim, then sometimes Rescuer, or rarely Persecutor. What about you?
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