My Lover Has Undiagnosed BPD

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

Three years ago my marriage was in the crapper. I got involved with a colleague, a fellow teacher (she's married as well). She made me feel again. It was great. But there were things. She would have meltdowns over the littlest things. But on the other hand would tell me how she couldn't be without me, how she thinks of me constantly, etc...

Over the last year there there have been more meltdowns, more of me getting frustrated. I broke it off for a month but like a drug went back.

She's had two meltdowns two weeks apart and blocked me on FB. I feel so much better, but have so many questions and things I need to get off my chest I have no idea where to start.

Help!

[Teach2112]

Three years ago my marriage was in the crapper. I got involved with a colleague, a fellow teacher (she's married as well). She made me feel again. It was great. But there were things. She would have meltdowns over the littlest things. But on the other hand would tell me how she couldn't be without me, how she thinks of me constantly, etc...

Over the last year there there have been more meltdowns, more of me getting frustrated. I broke it off for a month but like a drug went back.

She's had two meltdowns two weeks apart and blocked me on FB. I feel so much better, but have so many questions and things I need to get off my chest I have no idea where to start.

Help!

[formflier]

Thanks for posting.  I'm curious what led you to start posting.  Any one event..or just the accumulation of "crazy".

Why don't you start by asking some of your questions and that will help us guide you.

Best,

FF

[Turkish]

Hi Teach2112,

And welcome. It's often best to start at the beginning. I can imagine getting involved with a colleague is complicated. I've been there. It's there a risk at your job?