I went to my ex's TikTok and she was calling herself a survivor of narcissist abuse there. Her closest friends don't see that because she knows I told them what happened.
Maybe she hoped you will contact her trying to defence yourself?
Everytime my ex screwed up he loved to blame me for it or smtg else ..because it worked. I started to explain myself and his behaviour has been swept under the carpet...
I don't think so. She had blocked my profile on TikTok. She blocked me everywhere.
It did put a funny spin to her breakup narrative. When she told me she wanted to break up she acted all nonchalant about it. Even sort of carefree. "Oh, I've been meaning to contact you about it." This was after a measly two weeks of NC. She had the air of almost forgetting to inform me that the hugely stressful, abusive and heavy relationship was over because "we're simply not happy together". She even had the gall to ask me to meet her live to deliver the news. Again, having an air of not knowing at all where I was with the breakup. "Oh yeah, I don't want to restart a relationship with *you*, mind you I've been seeing your best friend, bye." That's obviously not what she said but it was insane how out of it she was. She had probably discarded me from her mind completely and had no idea that I would have gone absolutely mad if we saw each other.
That's just more levels of insane when I think about it now. The last time we saw each other I just about chased her out of my apartment. Even told her I wanted to physically hurt her later. Not as a threat but to make her see that we are in deep piss in the relationship.
We then proceeded to mill about the breakup until deciding to take a break. After two weeks of NC, I had to ask her what is going on. She then almost absent-mindedly suggested we see "at the Chinese place today if that's okay with you".
I immediately knew what was going on and got super mad at her for breaking up with me because I was and am still intensely trauma bonded to her. I called her a cancer and got hysterical in general. She then blocked me for a week.
Like, what in the absolute
PLEASE READ did she think was going to happen if we did meet live? The same person
1. almost literally ran away from a number of our dates this year because I said something mildly stressful to her (and she couldn't regulate by terrorizing me because we did not live together anymore, instead she had to leave "defeated" and in flight response)
2. wanted to see and dump me live like dropping off a book to a friend after forcing me to accept a vague break which she promptly used to date my best friend, the narrative indeed being "I've been talking to a lot of people and the conversations always summed up to us not being happy together".
3. blocked me for a WEEK for getting nasty on WA when we should have been negotiating about her getting her stuff out from my apartment with absolutely zero contingency plan. Like she had tons of stuff she would later beg me to let her come pick up at her own pace at my place, and all she could do was BLOCK me. If I did not contact her, I'm not entirely convinced she would have contacted me after the week.
4. went on TiKTok calling me a narcissist
