This is my first time on anything like this, so I am not sure exactly what to say. I guess some background to start with. I am 22 years old, and my younger sister and mom have borderline personality disorder. My older sister also has a mental illness either skitsophrenia or borderline, but she would not stay in the hospital long enough to be officially diagnosed. My older sister molested the little one and so she is not currently in the picture. My youngest sister has tried, to kill herself at least 10 times now and her symptoms are getting progressively worse. I have always been her number one supporter and recently i feel like there is no hope for a better future. I feel even guiltier for feeling this way because if I cannot fully support her then who will? I just do not know what to do anymore I am drained.
Hey Hippo. That's truly heartbreaking and I am so sorry you're going through this. You came to the right place.
First off, there's always hope. Don't give up on that just because the deck seems to be stacked against you. Your mom and your sisters will get through this!
Also, can you tell us a little bit more about your relationship with your younger sister? Why are you drained? I don't want to assume here so it would help to have a little more context.
For people with BPD, communication is often strained because they struggle to control their emotions. Your job as a big brother is to help her "level out" in times of high stress so she can relax and see things more objectively. It's not fair and it's a very heavy burden to carry, but hopefully you realize that this is ultimately not on you to "save her". I have an ex-wife and a young adult daughter with BPD and I had to learn this the hard way.
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