Hi, I’m needing a space to help with not being overwhelmed. I am dating someone with BPD. They’re wonderful and I want to know what are some great ways to best support them. They’ve shared with me their triggers, some experiences in other relationships and how BPD has affected their past relationships. Currently, they’ve had more frequent episodes. The triggers are very small things at times so it’s unpredictable to know when they’re in that state of mind until it’s already happened. I always remain patient, reassuring of our commitment, and talk them through it. In the meantime we have been looking to find a professional for both them individually and for us a couple but it would be helpful to learn about anyone else’s experiences with a partner that has BPD and help with navigating the ups and downs.
You'll find a lot of insight here. Read through a bunch of threads in all the different boards, you'll see a lot of commonalities and a lot of ideas for how to be in a relationship with someone with BPD.
They've shared how BPD has affected their past relationships? This is fascinating, hopefully they have some real insight? That would be a great thing for you.