husband with signs of BPD

[bear01]

My husband shows signs of BPD... .I don't know what to do? Just got married in October 2016

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[Springer]

I am long time in a BPD relationship and am just now trying the Yale communication process with my SO.
1. State the problem: "When dishes are overflowing the sink."
2. State what the problem does to you: "I feel frustrated, because I've been at work all day."
3. State why its a problem: "I am hungry and want to get right on to making dinner, but can't." Then wait for a reaction.
4. State what you will do: "I will have to eat a frozen dinner."

Its like learning a new language for me. I want to go right into victim mode, then caretaker. This approach is helpful when I can pull it off.

[Mutt]

Hi bear01,



I'd like to join Springer and welcome you to bpdfamily. You're newlyweds. I'd like to echo Springer, there are different tools for different situations, PUVAS, DEARMAN, SET and validation. A pwBPD need a lot of validation because they have low self esteem, low self worth,  self loath and self hate.

What signs do you see in your H?