This relationship has been explained here:
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=281089.new#newBut I wanted to hear from people that successfully moved on from a soBPD... .I talked with her family for the first time ever the last couple days and learned that she has lied and manipulated since she was a very young child... .and I learned more very hurtful lies she used to manipulate me that I wasn't even aware of.
And upon confronting her with this, she simply says 'believe whatever you want, keep attacking me, I know it makes you feel better'.
So now comes the healing I guess... .and lord it is already impossible... .but I'm trying.