Denial of the exBPD

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

My exBPD told me over a month ago in a vile email, after an apology I sent, that there was never any friendship or anything close to love.
Yesterday I was notified via email by a background check company (exBPD applied for a new job before breakup) there was a response to my observation. I assume the file was reactivated due to her reaching the end of probationary period of her new job (3 mo ?).

Initially, the background check company contacted me shortly after the breakup of the relationship and I told the computer questionnaire that I used to date her. It asked me what was the reason for the Break-Up and I told them that she was what I thought "emotionally challenged". I thought that was a pretty open-ended statement that could be interpreted in many ways and was not negatively vile.
Turns out someone else contacted them and said that they were surprised that someone she was "close with" in her past would say something negative.
I'm surprised the background check company would even update me via email unless it is a computer robot that tracks initial commentary?
Anyway, how do I reconcile the "we were never friends or close to love" with this update?
It makes me wonder if she has softened her position on our short 2 mo. r/s?
Am I close to getting some closure from her?
This development has really messed with my head again after I was thinking that I was over her.
Still finding my exBPD fills my head too much.

[Lost-love-mind]

My exBPD told me over a month ago in a vile email, after an apology I sent, that there was never any friendship or anything close to love.
Yesterday I was notified via email by a background check company (exBPD applied for a new job before breakup) there was a response to my observation. I assume the file was reactivated due to her reaching the end of probationary period of her new job (3 mo ?).

Initially, the background check company contacted me shortly after the breakup of the relationship and I told the computer questionnaire that I used to date her. It asked me what was the reason for the Break-Up and I told them that she was what I thought "emotionally challenged". I thought that was a pretty open-ended statement that could be interpreted in many ways and was not negatively vile.
Turns out someone else contacted them and said that they were surprised that someone she was "close with" in her past would say something negative.
I'm surprised the background check company would even update me via email unless it is a computer robot that tracks initial commentary?
Anyway, how do I reconcile the "we were never friends or close to love" with this update?
It makes me wonder if she has softened her position on our short 2 mo. r/s?
Am I close to getting some closure from her?
This development has really messed with my head again after I was thinking that I was over her.
Still finding my exBPD fills my head too much.

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Who knows what this is about but I don't see a win for you here.

It might be best to stay out of it. You have no obligation to respond and in many ways, I personally think asking one partner why a relationship failed is invasive (just an opinion).   

[Lost-love-mind]

I agree. It was just an impulsive post on my part because I'm confused.
Closure on my part was accomplished by reviewing reasons why I stayed attracted to such a woman with so many questions in her past. I'm cleaning my side of the street, so to speak.
Reviewing her potential change of heart and turning me "white" again, I would doubt due to my initial breakup emails asking about her past were rejected as intrusive. They probably were, but she was married to a high profile musician that has an underground music scene social footprint the size of Bigfoot.
I speculate much of her behavior at the end of our relationship (bdsm sexting and talk of drugs) due to an 9 yr. marriage to a drug abusing and philandering man that evaporated any true possible intimacy from her heart.
I should be grateful she turned me me black .