Quotes from the pwBPD in my life

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

These were some gems from the pbdx-friend:

"I deserve to be happy" (said to justify giving her kids up for her 2nd husband)

"I will just ask my dad for my inheritance early" (talking about the 40,000 in credit card debt she wanted him to pay off)

"What about me?" ( When we were together and I received a compliment)

"As soon as he heard I was separated he called my mother for my phone number" ( Actually she called HIS mother for his number, he was still married, she was still married to her 1st husband, in the process of stealing her 2nd husband from his wife)

"I can be a b*tch as long as I look nice, he will put up with it"

"I can't stand that man" ( translationne guy that wasn't responding to her affections)

"I DESERVE this cause he... ." ( insert any excuse for her to blow 800$ in a few hours at the mall)

"Women in this town are just jealous of me"

[snappybrowneyes]

These were some gems from the pbdx-friend:

"I deserve to be happy" (said to justify giving her kids up for her 2nd husband)

"I will just ask my dad for my inheritance early" (talking about the 40,000 in credit card debt she wanted him to pay off)

"What about me?" ( When we were together and I received a compliment)

"As soon as he heard I was separated he called my mother for my phone number" ( Actually she called HIS mother for his number, he was still married, she was still married to her 1st husband, in the process of stealing her 2nd husband from his wife)

"I can be a b*tch as long as I look nice, he will put up with it"

"I can't stand that man" ( translationne guy that wasn't responding to her affections)

"I DESERVE this cause he... ." ( insert any excuse for her to blow 800$ in a few hours at the mall)

"Women in this town are just jealous of me"

[canucky]

I got alot more of the "you betrayed me" everytime when I left. Also since sometime we would make agreements like I would pay her rent if she would go to work (of course she never did). Then I would get you are a liar. I think my exbpfgf was pretty NPD also though so I would get more the painting black comment like "I hated you and always have". Kinda the opposite of what I am hearing here. Also quite often would be "i never loved you"

Makes you never want to turn back even if they did for those "moments" that were brief.

Canucky

[henk2]

i love you, i love you, i love you

i hate you so much

i´m going to destroy you

you are a lazy, old, no fun, depressed cheater and a lyer and i will never forgive you for what you´ve done to me

you`re so much better than other men, so much more normal, nicer, a good father, i simply love you

we don´t belong together, i love life, you don´t

you´re so booring

you´re a lousy kisser

i´m not attracted to you anymore, in fact i´m not sure i ever was, you know, like it should be

i want a relationship as in the movies and in books, i never felt that kind of passion for you

i´m so glad that you behave normally during sex, most men are freaks

thanks so much for all you did for me

you´re my best friend

i never want to see you again

i hope you will be happy one day, with somone else

go see your f... .girlfriends!

me jealous? i`m never jealous

you are a borderliner, i´m perfectly sane, everybody loves me and people think you´re weird

you need therapy

i feel lost, completely, so dark, i can´t even breath anymore, help me

hey, people think i´m great! what´s up, why are you always depressed?

sex is overrated, i can have sex with any man

sex has nothing to do with love

he´s just a friend and i can meet him whenever i want

you always cheat on me, i feel it

etc. etc. etc.

[Im done]

"I have never lied to you."  (after being caught lying)


and on another occasion:

"Just because I didn't tell the truth, doesn't mean I lied to you."

[snappybrowneyes]

"I have never lied to you."  (after being caught lying)


and on another occasion:

"Just because I didn't tell the truth, doesn't mean I lied to you."

That is a crazy making statement for sure! LOL Reminds me of a parent of my daycare that was upset their child had to sit in time out. When I told the parent what the child did (physically hurting another child) they said "well punish the BEHAVIOR not the CHILD! Good grief... .we wonder why we get SO frustrated talking to them!

Just curious victimnomore2010, what exactly is it called then if it isn't lying?

[Im done]

"I have never lied to you."  (after being caught lying)


and on another occasion:

"Just because I didn't tell the truth, doesn't mean I lied to you."

That is a crazy making statement for sure! LOL Reminds me of a parent of my daycare that was upset their child had to sit in time out. When I told the parent what the child did (physically hurting another child) they said "well punish the BEHAVIOR not the CHILD! Good grief... .we wonder why we get SO frustrated talking to them!

Just curious victimnomore2010, what exactly is it called then if it isn't lying?

I'm not sure what it was called - he wasn't entirely clear on that... .

[learnedtolaugh]

It is called pathological denial.

[sad_panda]

Why her surprising me with divorce isn't breaking the vows we made 9 months earlier: "There was nothing in our vows about divorce"

When saying why she can't stop going through with the divorce:

- "But everyone already knows"

- "I don't miss you, never did [since I left]" (5 year relationship)

[Infared]

After my pwBPD lied and cheated and abandoned   me for her new hero a week before Christmas, I had irrefutable information that exposed some of her lies. Her response was:

"Those were lies  that I told you after I left you!"?

... .as if this the fact that she abandoned me gave her immunity, and therefore she was free and clear to lie all she wanted to me?    

... .ahhhhhhh... .the mind of a selfish 5-year-old is such a joy to try and reason with.

[hergestridge]

"If I'm such a terrible person, then why do you want to be with me?"

This was her standard response when wanted to end a discussion about something she had done. I had never said that she was a terrible person, that was her own conclusion.

When she had said this, you even had to start list things that you like about her so that she doesn't become all suicidal.

Makes me furious when I think about it. The pattern was that she verbally attacked me for no reason, and when I confronted her she pulled the above mentioned trick out of her hat and in ten seconds she had turned the tables on me. I had to apologize and comfort.

[Infared]

"If I'm such a terrible person, then why do you want to be with me?"

This was her standard response when wanted to end a discussion about something she had done. I had never said that she was a terrible person, that was her own conclusion.

When she had said this, you even had to start list things that you like about her so that she doesn't become all suicidal.

Makes me furious when I think about it. The pattern was that she verbally attacked me for no reason, and when I confronted her she pulled the above mentioned trick out of her hat and in ten seconds she had turned the tables on me. I had to apologize and comfort.

EVERYTHING is a manipulation.

[Warpy]

"When I met you it felt like the first day of the rest of my life."  A mistress of the grand statement.  Spare me.

I used to get "I dunno" regularly also.

[WhatJustHappened]

'THINGS WOULD BE BETTER if you just did what i said'

knowing that there is no way in hell of doing them 'the right way' because i'll be criticized every step of the way

[LettingGo14]

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