A reminder to ME

[How to communicate after a contentious divorce...]

This post is a reminder to me to watch what others DO, not what they say.

Consistent behaviors are what need to be judged, not consistent jaw flapping.

Words are cheap.

I am in a current situation with a family member that just drove this home to me AGAIN.

Families... .  

There are so many people here with rotten family situations that I almost feel guilty for even posting this, but right now my immediate family sucks!

turtle

[turtle]

This post is a reminder to me to watch what others DO, not what they say.

Consistent behaviors are what need to be judged, not consistent jaw flapping.

Words are cheap.

I am in a current situation with a family member that just drove this home to me AGAIN.

Families... .  

There are so many people here with rotten family situations that I almost feel guilty for even posting this, but right now my immediate family sucks!

turtle

[Clearmind]

Ah yes! You can't pick him. I'm conscious of actions too Turtle. Words can be dressed up in all kind of disguises.

I use to over extend myself and over accommodate, especially with family.

[turtle]

I use to over extend myself and over accommodate, especially with family.

Yes, I used to do this too!

And while we need to watch the actions of others, we need to make sure we hold ourselves to that same standard.

So, while thinking about this today, I had to do a self inventory and say "turtle, do YOUR actions match your words?"  Lets just say I had some "adjusting" to do. .

My Mom instilled in me that "actions speak louder than words." She used to say this all the time. When I was kid, I just blew it off, but as an adult, this little phrase is VERY true, not only for those around me, but for ME too.

turtle

[myself]

When I was younger, I thought 'actions are louder than words' meant keep an eye on the negative ones only. Watch out for who was hurting who, stay out of the way, etc.

Now I see, more and more, it's focusing on the positive words and actions, too (especially the actions).

We've been retraining our eyes, hearts, and minds to accept and be part of better lives.