Somewhere
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« Reply #4 on: March 11, 2013, 10:31:22 AM » |
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Has changed my life.
Very (VERY, VERY) Much for the better.
I am doing Al-Anon, and our 10 year old daughter is doing Ala-teen, since Mrs. Somewhere came back from Re-Had (eating disorder), a couple of months ago and had been messing with her. Daughter asked me for help, and Ala-Teen has been it. [Thank You, God.]
I had done Alanon a couple of years ago, for a couple years, and dropped away when we moved. I loved my "old" group so much I did not want to go to another [for anyone reading -- learn from my bad example], and was slipping into my old ways.
Mrs. Somewhere has been in AA for years [a private college threatened to kick her out -- said while she could make the grades, they would not graduate a drunk]. Whle that kept her drinking and drugs mostly in check it does not really directly deal with the mental illness issues. She did have a relapse about 7 years ago, but never changed her "date." Did not understand what all that meant at the time. I do now. Part of the lies that bind and chain her.
When some of the crazy stuff pushed us over the edge this last Summer, I went back to Al-Anon with my tail between my legs. Been a GREAT thing for me. Started working real hard on my stuff, and Mrs. and her sponsor, invited me to a email discussion regarding Eating Disorders -- her sponsor had Been There, Done That, too.
Problem with a Borderline Type ever letting different groups of people get together is the story mis-matches. Mrs. S had been lying to the sponsor for years that I would not let Mrs. S go to Re-Hab. I just laughed and said it sounded good to me. By the time Thelma and Louise (my nickname for Mrs. S and her Sponsor) got the Re-Hab planned, they screwed up the schedule and the whole thing was a basket-case mess.
She came back half-baked, but I was already Very Deep on the Al-Anon track (Thank You, God, again). With her going full-blown wacky, it caused me to study what the real illness is and has been going on. For Years.
Answer: Emotional Dyregulation, likely due to HyperActive Amygdala. Borderline in less clinical terms. With all the rest of Borderline Line-up.
At any rate, you asked what 12 step program(s) have done for us. And at the brief level, that is some of it. Anyone wants more details, help, etc., I am both obliged, and happy to give it.
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