Well not all of the 431 posts are about me
I have replied to loads too, trying to support other people and give advice, and just let them know that they're being heard.
I don't think it's that knowing what she's up to helps me move ON, but it reduces my anxiety in many ways. Example -when she was down here this weekend, I was so anxious the whole time. As soon as I could see from facebook that she was on her way home, I started to relax again. No nasty surprises and no worries that she'd still have time to turn up at my door!
I just find it helpful to know her mindset as I honestly feel it keeps me one step ahead. I am almost "prepared" I suppose. If, for example, I know she's had a bad day, I am more prepared to toughen up and not buy into it if she sends me an email saying she was thinking about me. As I know it's just cos she had a bad day, and tomorrow she'll forget I exist again.
If that makes sense.
I have a weird twisted logic sometimes. But one thing I will say is that I haven't hidden from any of this, I have faced it head on, and am slowly getting there, by working through. I am so much less engaged now in caring than I was. Which is good