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« on: April 27, 2013, 07:40:42 AM »

I think I'm going to back off the board for a while.  I'm finding that I'm too consumed with BPD and not doing what I need to care for myself.  Not that I don't care about all of you wonderful folks who have been so kind and encouraging, but reading about all the "issues" isn't helping me at the moment~~it's a bit depressing to be honest.  I need to get my happy on and that means less focus on BPD and more focus on the beauty of life.  I'll check in now and again, but right now... .  less is more.
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« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2013, 07:54:38 AM »

Good luck, Rockylove!  Enjoy the you time!  If you ever need support here, you know it's here for you.

BTW, I'm sure it's pure coincidence that this happened to be exactly your 500th post. 

 
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« Reply #2 on: April 27, 2013, 04:40:51 PM »

Rockylove 

a important statement, and it is your 500th post exactly.

I can relate what you mean. And whenever you need us here, reach out. We are here for you.  Smiling (click to insert in post)

Take care!
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« Reply #3 on: April 27, 2013, 05:07:50 PM »

It is sometimes too easy to get caught up in the negative, isn't it? Good for you for knowing when to take a mental health break. Doing the right thing (click to insert in post)

Hope to still see you around occasionally - thanks for all your support here!
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« Reply #4 on: April 28, 2013, 06:17:33 PM »

Sounds good! I wish you well 
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« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2013, 09:27:31 PM »

I need to get my happy on

Oh I love that expression!

Awesome that you recognise this, and are looking after yourself!

Now go get your happy on!

Love Blazing Star
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« Reply #6 on: May 01, 2013, 04:01:32 PM »

It seems codependency is such a prevalent problem with non-BPD people involved with others who are BPD that it is always important to remember what makes you happy at the end of the day. I have acknowledged about myself that I am a codependent in my relationship with my BPD fiance, and it is hard as hell to keep my mind straight. It is a constant battle to remember I can't control anything but myself and my own life. Remembering to take care of myself without feeling guilty that i'm being selfish or feeling as if other people see me as selfish is a huge hurdle.

I am glad you are taking the steps necessary to makes yourself happy. Sometimes you forget how after being enmeshed for so long in someone else's problems.
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« Reply #7 on: May 01, 2013, 04:32:08 PM »

I can totally relate.  In fact, when I mentioned my surprise to my pwBPD's latest revelation, I stated I would just go back to living in my "happy little bubble of love"

Good luck to you! <3

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« Reply #8 on: May 01, 2013, 05:12:22 PM »

Yeah, we've all been there.  I've taken several breaks over the years!  We'll be here if you need us!   
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