It's a process, and yes it's normal when your ex continues to enter into your life when you are trying to detach.
So, you didn't let him in your place? That can be hard, but sticking to what is right for you now is really important.
No, I didn't let him in. I met him outside in front of my place.
It's very hard to see him face to face. I see the man I fell in love with but then when I look closer, I see the man that has no problem ripping me apart.
I thanked him for the gifts and went back inside.
This morning I got a text from him stating that he is happy (imagine that) and he knows that there is no hope and he hopes I am happy too.
There was no reply from me. I'm really trying to practice NC with him.
I am reading the articles on this to include the one on Wise Minds and they are helping me sort this out.
Its been three long years and somewhere along the way, I lost myself - but am slowly finding her.
If possible can suggest a plan for me? Something with the steps I need to take, workbooks that I can complete and then move on to the next phase of the plan for healing?