I have been sitting here thinking, after seeing photos of my exBPDh and the replacement.
My first thought is - how could he dump me for somebody so plain and unattractive with nothing to offer him? She really isn't his type from what he told me during our 9 years together. BUT she is 'one of the gang' in the new crowd he is associating with and so desperately trying to fit in with.
My second thought, is that if he were on his own, I wouldn't be so upset. I expected him to be on his own after we split up and I didn't know about the replacement for a while. He always told me that if we ever got divorced he would remain single and I really thought he would.
So from this, I think that it isn't him I want and miss. It is just the 'being wanted' by somebody. And I don't want him to be doing better than me after the breakup he wanted. But had it got to the point where I wanted to dump him, I wouldn't care two hoots what he was doing now.
I think maybe I just have a case of badly bruised ego and dented pride