noise

[cron65]

HI everyone... . I am now at the indifferent stage re my ex BPD. I don't wish her ill will... I wish her nothing.

My question to everyone is how do you stop the noise.? HOw do I rid myself of her?

... . when I turn off the light to sleep, I am bombarded by her noise. She haunts me by ruining my sleep.

HOw do I clear my head of her and her illness? I need to be free of her... . is it just a matter of time?

Please help... .

[Mutt]

Hi cron65,

I'm not sure that I understand. What do you mean by noise and that you are getting bombarded with this noise?

[Tincup]

Hi Cron65,

If what you mean by noise is thoughts in your head, my answer is time.  For me it has been better with time and the detachment process.  I wish I had an "easy" answer for you because I hated when someone would tell me time.

[Lamaiel]

I feel that by noise you mean rumination and some version of racing thoughts.  It is something I currently deal with in regards to my exBPD as well as in other stressful situations.

Check out this workshop on ruminations, it may be a good starting point:

https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=103396.0

[trevjim]

Day by Day, Hour by Hour.

You gotta climb that mountain one step at a time

[cron65]

Hey Mutt,

You have been a big help to me, bro. What I mean by noise is seeing her in my thoughts, dreams, etc... still thinking about the events of the relationship, the break up etc... . regretting that I contiinued in the relat. even though I always knew something was wrong with her. More mad at myself.

I have so many other things going on in my life right now and she always pops up in my thoughts. I think I will seek more help... therapy etc... . I really didn't need this ___. It's ironic how we need therapy, eh?